I have very little respect left for this forum, with the exception of Don Pisto (whom I admire a great deal) and people with whom I have commiserated in the private chats, where we have had conversations along the lines of "Did you hear what X did to Y, what they said," "How they kicked her to the curb?" etc. Many involving our "revered" (NOT!) mods. You may be surprised to know (unless you spy on the PMs) how many negative feelings there are about the mods and certain members, the mods because of a certain arrogance and a kind of Nazi-like insistence that anything other than their way is NOT RIGHT. (No personal opinions on protocol allowed here ...).
I wouldn't doubt if you have read those PMs anyway, in spite of the fact that they are supposed to be private and I know others who are convinced of that also. I don't hold a whole lot of trust in this place.
Dude, why give a fuck about any of that shit? Figure out what your goal is, take steps to do it, and be done. No need for all this weird drama.
If you want to get off subs and benzos slowly and as gently as possible, stabilize and taper. If you want to do it faster, set up a fast taper. If you want to stay on bupe, that is your choice too.
No need for internet slap-fights. Unless you really enjoy them. If that's the case, carry on.