Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

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Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby cheeps » Fri Nov 17, 2017 1:11 am

:roll: This is the time of year most of us users DREAD. We have to face family we haven't seen in a while. We have to be on point for immediate family and we have to act like we are happy...when nothing is further from the truth.

Everyone in an active taper knows that routine is our friend. Parties, special occasions, and well meaning family disrupt our fragile tapers.

Be prepared ahead of time. One of the best ways to avoid conflict is to become sick with a bad cold or the flu. No one wants a sickie around. It's ok to tell white lies and make excuses to stay away from situations that would drive you to spike. Your taper is a job...it is hard work. Do what is necessary to protect it. Don't feel guilty. Honesty is usually the best policy but no one really understands what you are going thru....

So don't feel guilty for telling Aunt Nellie and Uncle Frank that you aren't up for having them come stay for a week. Inform them ahead of time that your dogs have rabies. Let your step sister Ada think that you have bed bugs from a recent trip to Toledo....that the exterminator promised they'd be gone with just one more application. A bad case of food poisoning works wonders for weekend events....but promise them you'll send along some deviled eggs, that you're pretty sure they're still good.

In effect...be selfish. It's okay...just make sure everyone in the house is on the same page so you don't get caught. :banghead:
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby CatsMeow » Fri Nov 17, 2017 2:15 pm

Great advice Cheeps! Da hubs already has an excuse to not attend (work) & I'm working on mine even as I post. I've come to the conclusion that there's no way I can go & pretend to be normal. I'm not normal. This last drop has me wrapped up in knots! :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: Okay, I understand that that's the way it goes sometimes. I've just had so much success dropping... until now. :gaah: I seem to be questioning everything right now.

What does it matter anyway? My family already thinks I'm selfish, so I guess I'll just prove them right. :lol:

Thanks for letting us off the hook with the Holidays. I guess I'll just say that next year will be better. Yes, next year will be better! :cheers:
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby Mare » Thu Nov 23, 2017 7:41 pm

Thanks for the advice Cheep.

My entire immediate family has first-hand experience with addiction, but that somehow doesn't make things any easier. It seems like what I'm doing is seen, but the gravity of it isn't really felt. My dad says from time to time that he's proud of me but he had a traumatic brain injury when he got in an auto wreck while driving under the influence so he's not really mentally or emotionally available.. and my bipolar mother is in a battered woman's shelter because she decided she didn't like her non-abusive husband anymore. Luckily my brother is super supportive and understanding and loving. I haven't spent a holiday with my family in so many years.. and I miss it.

Mostly I miss the extended family, but I feel like my aunts and uncles and grandparents have all written me off as my father's daughter.. I feel like when they ask how I'm doing I always talk about all the progress I've made which feels like nothing to then even though it's everything to me... I hate it and I try to avoid it even though I miss them...

My ten year high school reunion is this weekend and I'm not going.. it's just another big group of people I'd feel uncomfortable around and another opportunity to feel like I'm less than.. they all have jobs at Google and have families and travel the world and work in these high positions in amazing fields (I grew up the poor kid in a very rich town).. I'm so sick of being the girl who's constantly in a battle to overcome herself... It's getting old...

Blah. I feel like no matter where I turn its either me looking pitiful or me feeling like it doesn't even matter what I've been through.

Happy Thanksgiving. Sorry for being a bummer

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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby cheeps » Thu Nov 23, 2017 11:26 pm

Mare...this place ain't about pretty unicorns....it's more like unicorns shooting rainbows out their asses. We vent here All The Time....this taper shit is hard work and yep, nobody understands...except us. So raise fucking hell, cry, bitch, moan....we do it all the time.
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby Mare » Fri Nov 24, 2017 8:04 am

Thanks Cheeps. I'm probably gonna be doing a lot of it so I'm glad it's welcome here.

I made it through my first holiday where my SO's mom gave me the talk... "I hope soon you will have more people to bring for the holidays.. No pressure! But I really wanna be a grandmother!"

It was hard not to laugh.. I can't even support myself at this point. It was sweet though. Definitely got some warm fuzzies tonight.
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby cheeps » Fri Nov 24, 2017 9:47 am

Yes, she's just doing the grandma thing....clueless but in a good way.

I spent part of yesterday with my adopted family. Years ago after I got divorced I helped my best friend and her mom cook for a week before turkey day. We wrote down all the old recipes that had been passed down for years. Country turkey day is quite different in the south. Of course each region has its traditional fare.

Anyways, her mom passed a couple years back, too young, so we were really glad we had all her recipes....

The turkey
The pot full of giblets for gravy, add chopped boiled eggs
Cornbread dressing full of celery,onion, chopped boiled eggs
Sweet potato fluff with brown sugar pecan crust
Butter beans
Dark snap peas
Rice and giblet gravy with chopped boiled eggs
Corn
Watergate salad..barf
Yeast rolls swarming in butter
Ham
That nasty green bean casserole
Deviled eggs
Collards
Twelve layer chocolate cake
Italian creme cake
Seafoam
Pecan pie
sweet potato pie
Mincemeat pie
chocolate pie
Pepsi
Oh I forgot the naner pudding

All of it is made from scratch and the veggies are straight from the garden by way of freezer

At my mothers house all we got was dried turkey, sage dressing, rice and gravy, and green beans, white toast.

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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby Mare » Fri Nov 24, 2017 4:35 pm

Wow! That's huge! So much food, that's awesome. Very jealous! Cool to be a part of something like that.. glad you were able to get those recipes!

We threw together what we could between the hours of 6PM and 9PM and had a late Thanksgiving as usual but it was nice.

My family just orders Chinese food on the Holidays, so I tend to spend it with the BF.
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby cheeps » Sat Nov 25, 2017 8:42 pm

You should go read anna's list....makes mine seem paltry!
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby Mare » Sat Nov 25, 2017 9:34 pm

You should have heard my description of your southern country turkey day when I told my boyfriend how jealous I was of this list.. "they have eggs in everything and like 6 kinds of pies! They have sweet potato pie, pecan pie, and even some kind of hybrid of the two! And you know how you guys were joking about Thanksgiving rice?! ITS A THING!!"

I keep wanting to look up this "seafoam" you speak of, but I'm enjoying what I'm imagining. I'm thinking about some kind of aqua carbonated cotton candy ice cream slurry... But I know that's not right... CANT A GIRL DREAM???
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby Sub zero » Mon Nov 27, 2017 2:21 pm

JMHO but I think the holidays suck anymore...and I'm not even in the WD's. Holiday get-togethers are IMO a thing of the past. Back in the old days, we really only did see some family members once or twice a year...so it was a big deal to see them in person. But today, with cell phones and internet...email, text, Skype etc. etc., we're all so connected that it seems like overkill to meet up on Turkey Day and such. Most of my small-ish family lives in the same town as me and we see each other on a regular basis. So IMHO it's a pain in the ass to have to go somewhere and break bread with relatives. I'd rather sit at home and watch TV or play on the computer :lol:
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Re: Happy Holidays!! Or are they?

Postby cheeps » Mon Nov 27, 2017 2:49 pm

YOU KNOW IT'S JUST ANOTHER PORN DAY FOR YOU....

We gather together to watch a girl stripping
She wiggles and wriggles to get her clothes off
Her deeds are impressive but she's quite depressive
Sing praises to her efforts
But she needs a new job.

Sing to the tune of "we gather together to ask the Lord's blessing"
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